I mean if we were to randomly pick any person and consider the roles that are being played in that relationship, the emotions present in that relationship, the strength of that relationship, what can we say about purpose or usefulness of that relationship?
Can we pick out certain roles that are inherent in every single relationships, considering communication patterns, influences, environment.
In my practice, I've come to realize that with every single person I come into contact with, I'm playing the roles of both the student and the teacher.
Every relationship reflects the inner state of our minds. When hateful actions are directed at me, it means hateful thoughts have arise in the my mind. In knowing this, I am the student, carefully observing the actions and thoughts that are present at this moment. In my response, I am the teacher. The response I choose will represent the lesson that the student in front of me can learn.
How are lessons from these interactions learnt?
They are best learnt when the ego is allowed to get out of the way; when we see through the illusion of self projected by our thoughts. When this is not done, any communication is just another soliloquy playing itself out in our minds then carrying out into our response.
My response of choice is the Truth.